Writers (Just) Write, Right?

With todays’s post, I am entering ‘You Are Enough,’ a competition hosted by Positive Writer, one of the sites I visit when in need of encouragement and inspiration.

Leaps of faith?
Photo credit: Marko Pekić, Unsplash

Do you dream of writing a book? If you tell people, do they smile and give you a metaphoric pat-on-the-head? Are you brimful of stories but don’t know how to start, or believe you aren’t good enough? If so, let me tell you about my mini-breakthrough.

Just who do I think I am? I didn’t study English to degree-level. The subtleties of grammar are a mystery. I know little about sentence construction, hidden verbs, or how to structure a novel. I didn’t realise stories had ‘arcs.’ Why would anyone read what I write? I am a nobody, a fraud. I am an imposter.

But I’m an imposter with myths and legends hammering at the inside of my skull.

I’ve always enjoyed the power and play of words. I’d spend hours as a child writing stories, poems, and homemade newspapers. But I never gave serious consideration to becoming a writer. With my working-class background, a secure job and steady income were the height of ambition. I took the sensible route, studying geology and working in industry. Creative writing was pushed aside. But I still had ideas – a dormant word-volcano, eager for release. And in a dark, distant corner, a voice whispered: ‘One day. I’ll get to it one day.’

Years passed by and I wrote nothing. I didn’t think I could. Worse, I didn’t think I should. With my background and insecurities, I agreed with those who scorn: serious writing wasn’t for ‘the likes of me’. Disillusioned, trapped in an industry where ego-massaging and profit margins were all that seemed to matter, I needed connection, a real sharing of human experience. Life was empty without it. If I had a soul, it withered.

Forced to give up work for health reasons, eighteen months ago I wrote my first piece of fiction in thirty-four years. Knowing little about the art of the short story, I read any guidance I could find. I spent hours choosing the perfect word, lost days sharpening sentences. It took me two months to complete a 1,500 word story – madness. But the sense of accomplishment was the best I’ve known.

More short stories followed, but it was always a struggle. Surely it shouldn’t be this difficult? Real authors sit down with perfectly-formed sentences flowing, unstemmed, from their fingertips, don’t they? By the end of May 2019, I’d almost given up. I’d found something I loved, that made me feel alive, but I wasn’t good enough. My past career had left me hollow – now it seemed my writing skills were null, hopes for the future void.

Seven months later, change is afoot. Every morning I write, research, or scribble down new ideas before they evaporate. Every day, I learn something new that helps me improve. I have a manageable writing schedule, and I’m no longer afraid of the hard work. 

How the devil did that happen? Seeking approval, I sent a story to a critiquing service. Six agonising weeks later, I received an email from science fiction author John DeChancie. He was complimentary about my story. It was far more encouraging than I’d feared. A tiny speck of hope was born.

More recently, I enrolled in Jerry B. Jenkins’ Dreamer to Author course. Focussing on writers’ fear, it aims to encourage those with the writing dream who haven’t been able to progress. If my paradigm-shift is a measure, Jerry’s on to a winner. His inspirational advice made an enormous difference. 

A writer’s fears are well-founded: writing is a long, hard slog in a world of tough competition. The conceit is to grab that fear, smash yourself about the head with it, use it to produce the best work possible. All authors began as novices. None were born with complete sets of novels ready to print. It’s obvious. It’s logical. I knew that. But it took hearing it from a professional to apply it to myself. 

Successful authors learn their skills and continue to learn. They write and edit, edit and write. They go back, doing it again and again, in pursuit of perfection. Practice. Repeat. An orchestra wouldn’t arrive at the Royal Albert Hall expecting to give a bravura performance without rehearsal.

Buoyed by these revelations, I asked myself three questions:

– Do I have less ability than everyone else? Answer: Probably not. 

– Okay, so am I any less likely to be published? Answer: Possibly not.

– So why not try? Why not indeed?

So here I am, writing. Following a write-edit later cycle, I write without censure, without head-editing before committing words to page. Leaving the technical issues until later frees up the imagination, allowing me to start. I have a long way to go. I am as yet unpublished, but that’s okay: I’m an author-in-training. I’m being true to myself and enjoying the puzzle and the pain of the writing process. My change in mindset is the real success.

Who do I think I am? I am a writer. 

Who do you think you are?

Ask yourself those three questions and picture this: Jane Human opens your book. She reads your description of torment, putting into words how she felt but could not fathom. You have connected, time and space shrinking to nothing. You made it happen.

I believe anyone with a tale to tell can write a compelling story. We can learn the technicalities, but the passion, that soulful need to reach out and touch others? That is the foundation. That is the gift. If you’ve got that, get going. I’d love to hear how you get on.

One Giant Leap for the Crazy Kind

It turns out that my little experiment of moving around slowly, writing slowly, breathing slowly, trying to slow down my racing thoughts, worked well as a way to calm myself over the last week. A little too well perhaps; a lot of time was spent napping. To be fair, after the mad mental exhaustion of the previous week, I should have known to expect a bit of a dip. Hell, I must be one of the few people capable of burnout just by having more than one thought in my head. Mind you, I did have to sit up.

To be honest, it’s taken me a few weeks to become comfortable with a regular routine involving more than one activity – filling up the bird feeders and a wander around the garden, a bit of morning meditation and then a couple of hours writing . Even then, the routine only occupies me until lunchtime. After that, if I need to, either because I’m feeling anxious or I just can’t keep my eyes open, I officially allow myself to go with the flow of whatever I can handle; reading, playing a game, watching a film, curling up and taking that nap…But at least in the mornings, imagining that I’m a human going to work, I’ve made sure that I stick to my plan. I might even dare to say I’ve tricked myself into believing it’s boosted my self-esteem. 

I don’t think many people would be impressed by my progress. To all intents and purposes I still appear to be just sitting in the same chair, doing not very much of anything. I’m sure Jonny Apron, recently home from working away, would prefer it if I cleaned the kitchen floor. But others might recognise the difficulty I’ve been having adjusting to the change. 

For a long time I had no routine in my life at all. Having things to do now, even though they are my own goals and have not been imposed upon me by others, still makes me feel anxious. I know it makes no sense but from the moment I get up my old heart starts banging away in my chest, I find I’m holding my breath and my mind goes blank. I feel like giving up and going back to bed. But I haven’t given up, not yet anyway. 

No matter what anyone might say, I am giving myself a gentle little pat on the back for finally putting a bit of order back into my life. For a couple of months or so I’ve been writing something everyday, but it’s only over the last couple of weeks that I’ve been able to do so without leaving my other morning activities by the wayside. That is definitely an achievement for me.  I am learning to do what I’ve said I’ll do, even if only to myself. If I can’t do that, no one will ever be able to rely on me, and I will never be of any use. Not in the way I want to be. It takes me a step closer to becoming the person I want to be.

When it comes to my problem leaving the house though, no progress has been made. This is partly because I feel such a sense of urgency (that pesky anxiety causing problems again) to write that I feel guilty if I’m not doing it when I’ve said I would. I’m still not comfortable enough with the routine, or trusting enough of myself to be able to handle too much at once. Going out involves a lot of preparation, takes up too much time, and is fraught with dangers; noises bother me, crowds disorientate me, being looked at worries me, I’m afraid I’ll say or do something stupid.  

My list of excuses for not going out reaches to the sky, and it is only going to get more difficult if I don’t get a grip. I know how important human contact is, particularly when people find safety and shared experience amongst others. And even though I’m not exactly breaking down the door to get out there and actually join in with the world, that is the aim. But come on, the weather has been completely miserable, hasn’t it? Here we’ve woken up daily to pouring rain and gusty winds, or else a dreary, dripping suspicious-looking mist. You have to admit, it hasn’t exactly  been conducive to getting out there and embracing a tree.

Dear people, if you, or someone you know, is suffering from anxiety, depression or another mental health issue, if you recognise the feelings that I’ve described here, then take heart; things can change, be it ever so slowly. Each gain, no matter how minor it may seem to the outside world, should be a reason for celebration. It take an enormous amount of energy. No one has the right to denigrate your progress, and there is no reason why you should compare yourself to others. Most importantly, don’t be hard on yourself if progress takes longer than you’d like. I’m beginning to realise that my ‘illness’ is an integral part of me, something that I need to learn to work with, not against.  One small step…let’s go take it.

Preparing for take off…

Hello and welcome!

My name is Robbie. I’m a middle-aged woman (there – I’ve admitted it) who, after a lifetime of believing that the only way to survive in this perplexing world was to become comfortably numb (thank you Pink Floyd), has finally decided to place a boot in the appropriate place and make a stab at really living.

Writing this blog is part of my attempt to re-engage, part of my recovery from a position of isolated, star-gazing slothery (and I don’t care if that isn’t a word – it jolly well ought to be) to one of, well…who knows? It could take a while; at the moment I struggle to leave the house.

I know that there are others out there just like me, people with similar experiences, hopes and fears. I hope that we can connect. I hope that I will learn from you. Being here is a twofold thing – to help myself of course, but also to move in the direction of being able to help others.

I may talk about dealing with my anxiety disorder, perhaps sharing some of my background. The wildlife and nature around my home (Aberdeenshire) are likely to feature. I plan to write about books, TV, news, encounters with strangers…anything that moves me or spawns an idea about the human condition. I’ve recently been able to focus on creative writing again, so I may even share some of that. One thing is certain: there could well be a great deal of complaining or a few mad ramblings. I won’t apologise – we all spend too much time hiding and I have realised that the only way I will find peace of mind is to give myself permission to be me. 

I hope that you will join me as I document my progress. Please feel free to comment, or offer advice, particularly when I’m in a seriously flapping mood and need the calming influence of being told: ‘Get a grip!’